People get bored with sex. “The Missionary? Again?” With good reason. Sex can get repetitive if it’s the same position, same approach, every time. You wouldn’t eat a hamburger every day, now, would you?
And this is why there are sex toys. This is why people try bondage, or public sex, or whatever. Now, you don’t have to get all gussied up like the Gimp in Pulp Fiction in order to enjoy bondage.
So, what do you need?
Bondage is about trusting your partner enough to let them tie you up and do what they like to you, or vice versa.
Don’t like pain? Agree to not go there. It’s pretty simple.
Now, if you’re all gung-ho to tie someone up, but don’t want to be tied up yourself, I don’t think you deserve to do the tying, and I don’t care about this “But I’m a top!” bullshit. It is an act of trust. If you expect your lover to trust you, but you won’t trust them, then you might as well get a hammer, because that’s the first nail in your relationship’s coffin.
Once you’ve decided who’s being tied up first, it’s time to play. Personally, I prefer making an agreement to explore bondage in advance, because I think you need to be organized beforehand. There are, indeed, things you need in order to play with bondage.
Ah, you’re not ready yet, grasshopper. Now you need toys. You won't shell out big bucks on sex toys if you buy from my own online store, Kinky Toys to Go.
Multi-tasking is hot. If you’re standing and you lean down to suck and bite a nipple, then use a hand to tease their inner thigh and the other hand to toy with an ear lobe or something. Remember, they can’t see what’s coming. Every touch, every action, they all get you a new reaction. It can be tricky, when you're the doer, but as the receiver, it's just an incredible mix of feelings.
Always, always, always mix approaches. Bondage without oral should simply be considered wrong. Bondage with straight-through-to-orgasm oral should also be considered wrong, in my world. I think it should be intermittent, incessant teases. Oral, then kiss and suck and bite all over them, then return again to oral play. Interrupt it with more props and toys. Toy with them manually. Change gears as often as you’re able. When the frustrated groans get louder and more pained, start planning your route to orgasm -- by oral? By fucking them? By manual stimulation? Using sex toys? You're writing the playbook, you decide. If you like, ask what they want. I never bother, though. I'm in control, I'm deciding.
Devour your lover. Cover every inch of their body with your hands, mouth, and any other body part you can think of. Every place you touch and claim as yours is one less area they’ll be self-conscious about – and when you’re tied up in bondage, feeling self-conscious isn’t a big stretch. Negate it by doting and outwardly desiring them.
More to follow . . .
Yours truly, Mistress Printcess
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